If you mainly want to “hide” your IP, you can’t. Look at the headers of any message. It’ll still show the original source IP, which will be yours.

For the rest of the time I’d recommend getting a spam filtering service. Mimecast, ProofPoint, Barracuda, etc.

Messages sent to you go to the filter, which then forwards the message over to your mail server. Outbound you configure your server to use the filter as a smart host. These filters will also buffer messages if your mail server is offline. So if the server is down, the filter holds on to messages and retries delivery later when your server is back up (within reason).

You must have had a real sweetheart deal on VMware then. Proxmox is cheaper than VMware even under the old pricing. You also don’t have to buy the “Standard” subscription. There are cheaper ones.

I’m not aware of any that would run all of it at the same time. Most of this equipment is built for use with a server CPU and motherboard, which obviously has more PCI-E lanes. The Zen 5 consumer CPUs only have 28 PCI-E lanes, so unless you buy a motherboard that breaks out more through the use of a PCI-E switch, that’s all you’ll get.

That’s right. So on the top backplane, you’ll connect the Oculink ports to the Oculink outfitted HBA. One port per drive.

For the bottom 8 drives, it looks like you’ll have one miniSAS HD connector per four drives, plus another for the rear bays. I initially thought they were plain SATA and would go to the motherboard. But it looks like you’ll need a third connector - so you’ll want a 16 port HBA (Supermicro AOC-S3216L-L16iT).

Reading through all the documentation I can, it looks like you’ll have the option to run all the bays as NVME or SAS disks. The controllers and layouts I’ve listed are for running four bays as NVME, and the other 10 as SAS.

If I understand the ports you have - Supermicro AOC-SLG3-4E4T for the U.2 bays and a Supermicro AOC-S3008L-L8e for the SAS bays. You could replace the SAS card with a Dell HBA 330 as well. The Dell PERC cards that support NVME storage don’t appear to have the Oculink ports your backplane has.